掲示板 Forums - dad problem

You can’t. If you want to learn Japanese, you will have to find a way to do it without your father’s approval.

You reply with, "oh you are totally right dad, instead of learning something new, I am going to watch tv" and proceed to do it in the most zombie looking way No but in all seriousness, a parent should be proud that you want to learn such a difficult language. If you cant get his approval, just do it your own way.

I cannot see a reason why someone should stop you doing what you want to do. The trick I always tell my friends is if you want to do it. Do it.

It should be fine as long as there is no harm to yourself or anyone around you. Though if this is causing some conflict with your dad and there is no way to convince him and it is something you are absolutly passionate about, I would suggest doing it out of his sight such as alone in your room or assuming you are a minor under 18 (or the equivilent in your country) or live with him and maybe buy a few books or something to create a cover story and if he asks what you are doing just say you are reading (or the excuse you made up). If you have some freedom to go out on your own terms or not living with him, you can do it in the public library/ study space.

I used to have study limits in my house dictating how many minutes I can study anything not related to school a day meaning I used to get cheeky, hide in my room with a locked door for hours and pretend to be reading a book while studying Japanese.

Even though I moved out, I still do it but this time avoiding my kids seeing me study on hours end to prevent them from questioning my antics after their bed time at 10pm.